NEW PROGRAM: THE FIRE FAM- A family of fierce ones kicking love + sex addiction in the face.

I am happpy now.

With what I am good at and what I suck at.

If you knew the amount of hours I spent crying my sweet eyes out.

If you knew that the most well meaning friends, therapists, all listened, no one to clue me into the most freeing realization of my life:

I am an addict.

I can spend years discussing what he meant by that and how can I better steady my nervous system.

So when he hurts me

It doesnt have to hurt so much.

Turn my skin to water

Flow around whatever he has going on there.

I thought make him go to therapy, that will be enough. But no skilled narcissist gets shit out of therapy.

Spend 25k minimum on to get him to love me better. Love himself.

The reality is I am living in a society that is firmly embedded in addiction, calling it love.

I am prone to joining cults and cult-like relationships:

"Just do excactly as you're told and no one gets hurt, and if you do get hurt, that is your fault."

Business partner, sacred s*x community, lovers, support people, even my best friend all triping on power over me, until I saw how sick I was and how much people got off on my addiction to them.

I am not here to feed the redemptive high of hiring a new coach with botox and pouty lips. Casting spells with her pu$$y. I know the power of my body and it can be truly terrifying.

I believe most of us coaches are incredibly unwell in the realm of relationship. Either advertising all of the energetic and literal f*cking we are doing with the world calling it freedom (as did I) or are celibate mary magdalen's searching for peace through repression and sacrificial monogamy. Most are feeling a deep pull to what I am talking about here though none are offering this yet.

This is why I write you:

I am building a community of ones like me.

THE FAM

You were treated as an emotional support animal by one or both of your caregivers growing up.

One or both of your parents/caregivers were s*xually inappropriate with you either implicitly or explicitly making you feel on display, uncomfortable and not sure why because "nothing happened." Comments and leaning on you in a way that elevated you to partner status without anyone knowing it. I am happy to explain more as it is wildly inappropriate for you to feel equal to your parents and to feel your body is for consumption and public discussion. Message me for more of the nuances of this.

You were s*xually abused. You have memory of it, just the body reactions or both. Clinicians may have mentioned you might have been abused, due to your symptoms. This means behaviors that land as abuse even if you feel nothing bad happened or you are just being dramatic.

You are a sheer expert at one or more of the following body arts: pleasure, s*x, massage, seduction, or you are numb without access to any arousal with the right people, one or the other or both.

You have a tendency to build a life fast with new partners: you are pregnant, grabbing the uhaul and buying a house after meeting someone you like. Everyone will get to hear how special this rando is.

You are sure this time is different. This time this partner will love you and make up for the past or after this next _____ (retreat, coach, therapist) you and your partner will finally work this thing out. (Spoiler: I am not the thing that can change this, you are).

Anyone who shows you the slightest bit of interest (extra points if they are mean, unavailable or partly available) you are fucking hooked: you gotta have them and be had. Nothing is quite as fun than that person being into you, what it does to you historically has not been as important.

At times you need to go somewhere else in your head to org*sm.

You have been diagnosed or have seem to have ADHD, PMDD, or other mental health fun, high impulsivity, creativity, genius and propensity for mayhem and drama.

You are a goddamn leader and worldchanger, whether you are actively getting paid for this right now or not. Your voice is rare and we need it.

You dabble with sacred sexuality, polyamory, considered these things, or are prone to following gurus in this realm.

You are queer or think you might be along with a relentless devotion to d*ck or you are trying to be relentlessly devoted to d, but you are not.

You are in a body with female genitals.

You are married, about to be, or are newly married. You are considering leaving, are separating, or are just tired of fighting to stay with no idea of what to do.

You are single and are noticing the cray cray in all of your partners after awhile: they fuck you up (and you might like it a little)

Are unsure if you are just bored in healthy love and stir crazy, consumed and feeling imprisoned by it (and a bit guilty about this like cant I just be happy already).

You think it might be a food addiction, or your body, or a money issue, depression or laziness, while your gut says you could do so much more without the next manchild feeding off of you.

You want a family of ones next to you standing in their freedom and holding eachother in what that takes and are getting to rest in free flowing equitable love.

I am holding and flowing. Fulling living the fucking dream in my marriage and just had a mini relapse after 2 years of sobriety. Feeling the cocaine-like high I get when all of the stars align (aka I am vulnerable AF) and what my body and brain can do from the *slightest* bit of attention, when I am in despair. It is remarkable. I can build a city on this high, easy. I need this community as much as I need to lead it.

I have been having discussions with a few of us in private about these things. It is time.

This is:

A new rehab. One you take with you in your pocket, built on the reality that you recover without ever getting on your knees in front of a male god or anyone else.

This is a family. I have been exiled from communities I tried to make family desperately, so I build a home for outcasts. We are the weirdo leaders building this new world right now.

Actually fucking effective unlike most rehab and programs. No one orients to love, sex, fantasy, co-dependency and approval this way. I am actively living what it takes when I stop obsessing over his tone of voice

What that emoji means

How I can finally be loved for all that I am.

I am love. I cannot fucking earn it and when I think I need to, thats when I need to check myself.

The first 10 that pay in full, get 1:1 sessions too.

THE PRICE

Chose your tier:

3,000 PIF includes 3 1:1 session and lifetime access to our fam. For those who are at ease with money right now and can comfortably give the full amount.

2,000 PIF includes 2 1:1 sessions total and lifetime access. You have savings and can make this happen without restricting yourself.

1,500 PIF one 1:1 sessions, lifetime access. You are building up your finances and the other tiers would put your ass in a bind.

You will PIF via Stripe or Paypal.

Monthly auto payment of 500 can be done too. Lifetime access. Session add on available. Cancel anytime.

THE DEETS

Beginning: March. Date TBA.

Calls for 3 weeks each month with the last week off for integration. Everyone gets heard, we dont end until you do. Schedule in slight flux to accommodate all. Recorded. Embodiment work included to move through growth through fun and to feel as good and safe as we feel we want, not what we feel we deserve.

Circle app (like Facebook but not), 1:1 messaging to eachother, me in it not just watching.

Accountability like nothing you've experienced and total love and forgiveness when you go back, until you stop going back. We party either way.

MY CRED

I am a psychotherapist serving as coach for the last 9 years. I work with people across state lines and in other countries.

My license is in social work and is in effect again once I stand on east coast soil in mid Feb, since my license is not active when in the state of California.

I served about 70 people in Unchained 3 years ago, multi day workshop that began this body of fire. One was a very important person to me in highschool. She became my 1:1 client.

I lead about 50 people in women on fire for a couple of years during covid, I believe some are still close to eachother to this day. Includes a few people who shared romantic partners with me. All turned out great, one not well and I was hurtful and alienating because as I was out of integrity. Through this I learned to deal with my jealousy and use it for intimacy, not a sword. Women on fire ended, one reason being I was emotionally exhausted from my addiction to men. So I know what it's like to be in the genius flow then watch the gift crumble because of the obsession and addiction.

I lead luxury trauma retreats in CA and Italy watching ones physically transform into total unapologetic trust.

Last year Ive spent most of my time in this rehab I practice, only working with a small cohort of clients and building/avoiding my writing career. Plus licking my wounds so I dont try filling them with anymore youknowwhat.

I gave my body a break from holding, so I could hold myself and transform my life, my money, my love. I was fucked in most areas once I put down the bottle of men, so I have been learning how to person.

The best women I know struggle hardcore in relationships and I’ve decided we dont hafta anymore, it is decided!

I dont have the energy for much social media right now. I do have the time for you. Message me to discuss joining by putting your info into the form below. I can do calls too in fact prefer it if we don't know eachother yet.

If we are not comfortable with eachother, we won’t get the most out of this and therefore should not do it, so ask any questions and I will too to be sure this feels like home.

You can change your mind, leave any time. Stay forever. There are no refunds so I encourage not to join if you have any doubts. Wait until you feel you want to join, knowing you will never feel ready for sobriety.

I do not want this program to put you in any kind of risk, so we will talk about the privacy measures you might need to entail to join.

If you cannot afford this, do not join.

FYI: Being dependent on a man for your well being is often a sign that something needs to change and we will look at what you can do in the meantime until you can happpily afford this work. Message me.

5 to 10 fam is the core group initially. We will grow monthly.

When you message me we will chat, get on a call if needed, then you will get the link to secure your spot and the scheduling questionnaire.

My limitations:

I am an attractive white privileged woman who identifies with being the gender I was born into. Queer though lean hetero (due to internalized misogyny, fear, my desire, and the fact that I am not currently seeking to live polyamorously). I can easily pass as "normal." I have worked with many non binary ones, many who went from straight to queer, only a handful of people of color and trans. This means that if you are trans or a person of color, fall outside outwardly privileged classes, lets talk to make sure you feel uber safe with me and with yourself to make adjustments/set boundaries as needed. I have more work to do here on my racism and biases, I never find what I learn to be enough.

I have never been diagnosed with a mental disorder though actively working with specialists because I compulsively look at more things I can do to love the parts of me that feel fractured aka looking for something to be wrong! I like growing, to put it kindly. I see diagnoses as helpful, not as guides. Just another tool. If your diagnosis is very precious to you and you use it as an excuse to act out towards yourself or other people, I don't feel especially equipped to support you at this time. Welcoming in people who are seeking deep alignment with their integrity and are not looking to excuses for their behaviors. I will teach what this looks like (this showing up for yourself and for others in the way you intend to as I spent years blowing my integrity up). I initially need your desire for humility and self awareness. With that said, PTSD, postpartum depression, anxiety, depression, most of these issues are at their core some level of trauma and that is where I shine. I am also studying the physiology piece of all of our physical and mental disorders and understand the body-mind-soul connection intimately, though cannot cure any illness and probably shouldn't try.

I am very sensitive to the well being of my clients and therefore need strong self care. It could seem like I am distanced at times in order to hold your process and not take the good or bad days too seriously or personally. It all shall pass.

I will make mistakes. I might say something too direct, in a hurtful way. There might be some days you're really grateful for that directness and other days you would appreciate more gentleness. I could be totally wrong too, which I hope to always remind you of. You listen to yourself, wait before making any decisions and act when body says yes. During any friction or hurt feelings, I promise a willingness to hear your experience and unwavering commitment to your well being, to my own, and to the whole family.

WHO ARE WE

We are called The Fire Fam. Thank you to the original 4 who held this title a few years back. I loved every minute with you. Now it is time that we bring this baby back and blaze it bright.

What to do now:

Just message me, the rest will be figured out.

E-mail me: maria@mariapalumbo.com