If someone asks you a question, you are not obligated to answer it.
If someone gives you a compliment, you are not obligated to receive it.
If someone gives you negative feedback, you do not have to let it in.
Just because someone is offering you something doesn't mean you have to take it from their hands.
This can be truly difficult for the empath: choosing to respond in a way that feels authentic instead of nice or protective of another's feelings.
Recently I told someone that I did not want to be open with them.
It was the most difficult and enlivening words I have ever spoken.
And what a gift: we do not have to like or be liked by everyone.
We get to choose who we rub elbows with, who we cry to, who we laugh with, who we wake up to in the morning.
If we choose these people carefully and without impulse or obligation, we will have so much more energy and joy for them because we are not letting our energy run dry trying too hard somewhere else.
To letting the right ones in.
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